Entries by adelaideconflictmanagement

It’s not about me

I was once asked to describe what I do.  My answer was that I listen to people complain about each other. That is really only part of what I do, but it is a significant part of my everyday experiences as a conflict coach. And people ask me how I deal with all that negativity, […]

The perfect storm

I deal with a lot of perfect storms.  A series of events that escalate to a mighty crescendo of almighty conflict, loud and cruel words and hurt feelings.  It’s like watching a movie; event after event leading to this incredible moment in time. As an outsider looking in it is obvious that this moment is […]

Time for a Change

In 2014 I had a really significant health scare. As a result I made significant changes to my lifestyle that probably saved my live. I stopped drinking, started exercising and ate better. I lost 30 kg in eight months. I felt better than I had ever felt before. Five years later and I still don’t […]


An all too common scenario: two good friends go into business together. They create a company, the split the costs, and they excitedly work out what they are going to sell, how they are going to price their product and who is going to take responsibility for the various tasks — all good. Until something […]

Defrosting the freezer

We have possibly the oldest freezer in the country.  It’s a small freezer that is the twin of our fridge. They would be about 20 years old, and they perfectly fit into the spot that was designed just for them. There is no way we could find a fridge and freezer to fit into these […]

Thanks, Dad

Last night I had a dream — one of those really clear dreams that I could remember straight away. It was about Dad.  I was in a big auditorium with him, and there was this big crowd of adults and children.  We had just found out that we had to present to them and we […]

Fisty cuffs

I have recently been involved in assisting two parties who engaged in a physical fight that occurred on the work site during working hours to come together, work through their difference and find a way to be able to work together again. This is a remarkable situation.  Not because the parties engaged in a physical […]

Sucked in

I see it all the time. We just can’t help ourselves.   Someone says something rude or cruel in the heat of the moment and we take the bait and we jump in and take offence and may say something rude and cruel back. And it’s on. The gloves go on and the conflict begins. […]