I am not a fashionista. I am a jeans-and-hoodie type of girl.
I own about six pairs of shoes. Sandshoes, ugg boots, comfortable black boots, sensible flats and two pairs of sandals. I don’t understand people’s obsession with shoes. I don’t even like buying shoes.
My daughter, on the other hand, is shoe-obsessed. She has multiple pairs of sandals, heels and flats. Her shoes don’t fit into her cupboards.
I was at her place the other day, helping her sort out some furniture for her bedroom and said “why do you need so many shoes?” and she rolled her eyes at me. “Mum, you are so old!”
I grumbled and my brain went into grumpy mode whilst I looked at ways she could fit more things in her cupboards than out of her cupboards.
And then I remembered that this was her place, her clothes, her shoes. This had nothing to do with me.
Why do I care if she has a lot of shoes? Who am I to impose my disinterest in shoes and clothing in general on to her? We’re different and that’s ok.
I see lots of people in teams who want everyone to think like them, to do it their way so that they can prove that they are right, that their way is the best way.
This is when you need to ensure your team has great clarity – where are we going and how we are going to get there. When you have that sorted, then people don’t need to sweat the small stuff.